No, if you have sex with so many people in three months that you need to get an STD test, I can, and will, call you a slut.
This does not mean I want you to be raped.
This does not mean I want to control you.
It means you’re a slut.
If you think it’s something I’m “shaming” you for, then maybe you feel ashamed of your actions.
If you’re “empowered” by sex, you shouldn’t feel ashamed by anyone’s “shaming”.
Yo. Getting an STD test is just SMART. For everyone.
And no one cares about your opinion on their sex life because I’m sure you don’t matter to them.
If this person isn’t having sex with you, it’s none of your business. You’re slut-shaming because this sexually active woman doesn’t fit into the sexual commodity that you want her to fit in. You assume that all women should practice sex a certain way and if they don’t that makes them bad.
You should probably think long and hard why someone else’s sexual life matters to you so much.
Are you mad that they’re not fucking you? Or getting more action than you?
Because ouch. Figure your own shit out.
3 months tho? There’ve been weekends where I have slept with enough people in 3 days that getting tested would be smart.
Not to excuse slut-shaming for any number of partners… if someone has a long term relationship with someone, and has sex with them during the month they break up, and then has a month of just being with themselves, and then has a month where they’re getting back there, and then starts dating someone and sees them for most of a month before they’ve had sex…
That’s two partners in three months and that’s plenty for an STD test.
The OP apparently thinks there’s some special magic number (probably the number of partners they’ll have in three months +1) that makes someone vulnerable to STDs. Yeah, good luck with that.
Right? That’s what I was thinking, was that a three month span was plenty enough to have had at least 2 partners without deviating from normal dating/sexual behavior standards, and be worth getting tested without anything “slutty” having took place.
OP is probably someone who thinks that STIs happen to other people, other kinds of people, people who do something to deserve it. It’s not a problem for their kind of people, not something they’ll ever have to deal with…
And therefore not something they’ll be diagnosed with in a timely manner.
I just got an STD test done a couple weeks ago. I’ve slept with three people in my entire life. Yes, three. My shortest relationship was 8 months long. I’m such a slut.
But I still get tested. Because no matter how much I trust my partners, I recognize that I can only control my own behavior. I haven’t been in a truly monogamous relationship since 2007, and yes, I trust the two people I was with after that, I trust them very much. But I know that they were both seeing other people. And if their other partners were also seeing other people, and so on and so forth… that is, potentially, a huge number of people whose behaviors and histories I can’t account for.
It’s a simple blood test that will either a) tell me I’m healthy, or b) tell me that I’m not healthy so we can immediately get started on treating or curing whatever I might have. What if I hadn’t gotten tested, but I *did* contract an STD… do you propose I just… not find out? Let it get so bad that I’m really sick and need treatment, but by that point it might be too late?
No thanks. I’ll take my health into my own hands. Be as irresponsible with your own health as you want…
but as long as there are people out there being irresponsible, that’s just all the more reason for me to get tested.
You don’t understand
-Cutting unless you’re a cutter.
-Suicide unless you’ve attempted it.
-Depression unless you’ve felt it.
-Eating disorders unless you’ve had one.
-Me unless you’ve been through what I’ve been through.
So don’t pretend like you fucking understand.
I really fucking despise the term “cutter.” Don’t reduce me to my actions like that. I am a PERSON who suffers with self-injury. I am a PERSON who has cut myself. I am a PERSON with real-life issues. I’m not an archetype. I’m not an action. I’m a human being.
Because it’s so fun to make fun of someone who was born blind and deaf, someone who was so less fortunate than yourself. Bravo.
Seriously let’s pick on someone who is totally defenseless!
OR I HAVE A BETTER IDEA!
We could talk about how Helen Keller taught herself to speak by feeling the vibrations of her tutor’s vocal chords and then making the same vibrations with her own throat. We could talk about how she lectured around the world about her second book (written about socialism). We could talk about how she helped found the ACLU. We could talk about how she was awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom- one of the two highest honours a US civilian can be given.
We could talk about how Helen Keller is one of the most interesting people to have ever lived (in my opinion) and how her adventures and activities go far and beyond learning how to communicate.
YES. This. <3
stop treating me like i’m stupid. i don’t understand why you people act like i’m completely incapable. i know how to do my job. i know how to follow cues. this isn’t my first time closing a (goddamn) door. i don’t need three different people to tell me a thing. i don’t need to be reassured that you’ll be on headset so you can tell me when to do my shit. i KNOW how to do my shit. do i really give off an air of incompetence?
maybe i act like i don’t CARE, but the only reason i act like i don’t care is because you all treat me like i’m stupid, and i have a hard time dealing with that. so i keep to myself because i don’t want to talk to you. but i AM following along, i DO know what’s happening. no i don’t have a degree in stage management like she does, but she went to radford so is it really worth more than my experience? (ps, it’s not really a degree in stage management, it’s a degree in theatre, they don’t have a specific SM program)
i don’t want her job. i’m glad i’m not in charge. but i don’t like being disrespected and treated like a child. and i sure as fuck don’t like being my director’s scapegoat.
Rape Culture Pro Tip
If someone is not strongly and widely chastised and disowned for using “I’ll rape a pregnant bitch and call it a threesome” in song lyrics, then our society has a giant fucking problem.