No, if you have sex with so many people in three months that you need to get an STD test, I can, and will, call you a slut.
This does not mean I want you to be raped.
This does not mean I want to control you.
It means you’re a slut.
If you think it’s something I’m “shaming” you for, then maybe you feel ashamed of your actions.
If you’re “empowered” by sex, you shouldn’t feel ashamed by anyone’s “shaming”.
Yo. Getting an STD test is just SMART. For everyone.
And no one cares about your opinion on their sex life because I’m sure you don’t matter to them.
If this person isn’t having sex with you, it’s none of your business. You’re slut-shaming because this sexually active woman doesn’t fit into the sexual commodity that you want her to fit in. You assume that all women should practice sex a certain way and if they don’t that makes them bad.
You should probably think long and hard why someone else’s sexual life matters to you so much.
Are you mad that they’re not fucking you? Or getting more action than you?
Because ouch. Figure your own shit out.
PREACH.
3 months tho? There’ve been weekends where I have slept with enough people in 3 days that getting tested would be smart.
Not to excuse slut-shaming for any number of partners… if someone has a long term relationship with someone, and has sex with them during the month they break up, and then has a month of just being with themselves, and then has a month where they’re getting back there, and then starts dating someone and sees them for most of a month before they’ve had sex…
That’s two partners in three months and that’s plenty for an STD test.
The OP apparently thinks there’s some special magic number (probably the number of partners they’ll have in three months +1) that makes someone vulnerable to STDs. Yeah, good luck with that.
Right? That’s what I was thinking, was that a three month span was plenty enough to have had at least 2 partners without deviating from normal dating/sexual behavior standards, and be worth getting tested without anything “slutty” having took place.
OP is probably someone who thinks that STIs happen to other people, other kinds of people, people who do something to deserve it. It’s not a problem for their kind of people, not something they’ll ever have to deal with…
And therefore not something they’ll be diagnosed with in a timely manner.
I just got an STD test done a couple weeks ago. I’ve slept with three people in my entire life. Yes, three. My shortest relationship was 8 months long. I’m such a slut.
But I still get tested. Because no matter how much I trust my partners, I recognize that I can only control my own behavior. I haven’t been in a truly monogamous relationship since 2007, and yes, I trust the two people I was with after that, I trust them very much. But I know that they were both seeing other people. And if their other partners were also seeing other people, and so on and so forth… that is, potentially, a huge number of people whose behaviors and histories I can’t account for.
It’s a simple blood test that will either a) tell me I’m healthy, or b) tell me that I’m not healthy so we can immediately get started on treating or curing whatever I might have. What if I hadn’t gotten tested, but I *did* contract an STD… do you propose I just… not find out? Let it get so bad that I’m really sick and need treatment, but by that point it might be too late?
No thanks. I’ll take my health into my own hands. Be as irresponsible with your own health as you want…
but as long as there are people out there being irresponsible, that’s just all the more reason for me to get tested.
Source: communismkills
This cat won't take your bullshit: White people, when it comes to racism and how it affects people of color, nobody gives a fuck about your feelings,...
Y’all gonna learn something interjecting your white opinions into conversations you can’t even relate to.
Racism effects EVERYONE.
It creates divided communities, instills fear where there should be friendship,…I must say, I have no idea how my comments had anything to do with white guilt or tone. I was arguing from the perspective of utility. I did not state I was offended. In fact, I was not offended. I was simply stating my arguments for why I disagree with the statements made. This is called dialog.
I also did not complain about being “silenced”. I said I do not understand why people should discount my voice. To be silenced and to be discounted imply very different things. One needs no oppressive structure behind them to ignore me or otherwise disregard what I say. Please do not put words in my mouth that I explicitly did not say. For more on that, you should read this link. You also state,“silencing people on issues that don’t affect them isn’t the same as silencing someone trying to end their own oppression”
I don’t completely disagree with this statement, but it is important to note that I don’t think ANYBODY should be silenced, ignored, discounted, or otherwise disregarded. I am speaking from the belief that all voices are important. I would be strongly opposed to silencing those who are oppressed. It is for those that are oppressed that we included the right to free speech in our constitution. Once again, I advise you to not put words in my mouth.
“it’s pretty sad that of all the conversations you had to complain about, it was the one where People of Colour were saying you shouldn’t be complaining in.”
I do not believe I have been complaining. Disagreement and complaining are very different things. I am philosophically opposed to the statement made, so I made a counter statement.
potentially white people can experience prejudice or discrimination or even bullying (i think, could be wrong on the last one)
Yes, white people CAN be bullied. I have never heard an argument to counter that. If you have one, please enlighten me. As a person who has been bullied (or so I think), it would be interesting to hear.
but not racism, because our society is structured to always favour white people and systematically oppress everyone else. you should probably go and educate yourself about why ‘colourblindness’, ‘reverse-racism’ and ‘fale equivalence’ are tools of racist oppression.
I am familiar with all of these concepts (I was a IFST major during undergrad). Do you have an argument about how what I said was claiming any sort of reverse racism?
All in all, what I believe would be the most utilitarian way forwards is to include all people from all perspectives in issues that effect us all. Racism indeed impacts us all. To state otherwise is to marginalize the issue of racism, bigotry, hatred, and other forms of misappropriated discrimination.
“hey, black people, and hellllooooo ladies! White Guy here to tell you what you’re doing wrong in your fights against oppression. what you’re doing wrong is not listening enough to my White Guy Opinions! please consider my feelings in the matter. i’ve never been excluded from anything before and it really hurts my feelings because i take for granted the fact that in real life, society considers my opinion over yours 100% of the time. you should be including my White Guy Opinions in your discussion or else you’re not being rational and fair! thanks for letting me remind you what you’re all doing wrong.
“PS: BOOM! racism and sexism solved. you’re welcome.
“
Source: thegoddamazon
I’ve said it before, so I’m not going to write an essay here now. But I really don’t like this comic.
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Source: thedailywhat
Herman Cain Offers His Fifth Position On Abortion in 17 Days.
Abortion Is ‘Her Choice’: Over the course of one Fox News interview on Oct. 11, Cain insisted that “people shouldn’t be free to abort because if we don’t protect the sanctity of life from conception, we will also start to play God relative to life at the end of life.” But when asked whether a rape victim should have the choice, Cain said, “That’s her choice. That’s not government choice.”
Don’t Tell Women What To Do: On Oct. 19, Cain seemed to further his seemingly pro-choice position. “It’s not the government’s role, or anybody else’s role, to make that decision” on whether a sexual assault victim should seek an abortion, he said. “It ultimately gets down to a choice that that family or that mother has to make. Not me as president.”
A Family Can Have An ‘Illegal’ Abortion: On Oct. 20, Cain tried to shut out the uproar over his confusion: “I am 100 percent pro-life. End of story.” But the very next day, he added another chapter to his position. “Look, abortion should not be legal. That is clear. But if the family made a decision to break the law, that’s that family’s decision. That’s all I’m trying to say,” he said on Fox.
Pro-Life, No Exceptions: In that same interview, Cain finally declared that he was “pro-life from conception, no exceptions.” Apologetic for his “problematic” answers, he stated with finality, “I don’t know how much more I can say that if I am pro-life from conception no exceptions.
Pro-Life, With Exceptions: As noted, Cain’s campaign clarified yesterday that Cain actually does believe in exceptions and that “Abortions should be allowed in the instances of rape, incest and when the life of the mother is at stake.”
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Source: paxamericana
You don’t understand
-Cutting unless you’re a cutter.
-Suicide unless you’ve attempted it.
-Depression unless you’ve felt it.
-Eating disorders unless you’ve had one.
-Me unless you’ve been through what I’ve been through.
So don’t pretend like you fucking understand.
I really fucking despise the term “cutter.” Don’t reduce me to my actions like that. I am a PERSON who suffers with self-injury. I am a PERSON who has cut myself. I am a PERSON with real-life issues. I’m not an archetype. I’m not an action. I’m a human being.
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Source: artisallineed
Fox News Headline v. Real Headline of the Day
Fair and balanced journalistic integrity.
Fox news makes me want to puke.
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Source: nation.foxnews.com
Michele Bachmann: Dumbest things she’s ever said
HOW CAN ANYONE ACTUALLY SUPPORT THIS WOMAN
She’s fucking terrible.
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Because it’s so fun to make fun of someone who was born blind and deaf, someone who was so less fortunate than yourself. Bravo.
Seriously let’s pick on someone who is totally defenseless!
OR I HAVE A BETTER IDEA!
We could talk about how Helen Keller taught herself to speak by feeling the vibrations of her tutor’s vocal chords and then making the same vibrations with her own throat. We could talk about how she lectured around the world about her second book (written about socialism). We could talk about how she helped found the ACLU. We could talk about how she was awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom- one of the two highest honours a US civilian can be given.
We could talk about how Helen Keller is one of the most interesting people to have ever lived (in my opinion) and how her adventures and activities go far and beyond learning how to communicate.
YES. This. <3
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Source: kurtss
stop treating me like i’m stupid. i don’t understand why you people act like i’m completely incapable. i know how to do my job. i know how to follow cues. this isn’t my first time closing a (goddamn) door. i don’t need three different people to tell me a thing. i don’t need to be reassured that you’ll be on headset so you can tell me when to do my shit. i KNOW how to do my shit. do i really give off an air of incompetence?
maybe i act like i don’t CARE, but the only reason i act like i don’t care is because you all treat me like i’m stupid, and i have a hard time dealing with that. so i keep to myself because i don’t want to talk to you. but i AM following along, i DO know what’s happening. no i don’t have a degree in stage management like she does, but she went to radford so is it really worth more than my experience? (ps, it’s not really a degree in stage management, it’s a degree in theatre, they don’t have a specific SM program)
i don’t want her job. i’m glad i’m not in charge. but i don’t like being disrespected and treated like a child. and i sure as fuck don’t like being my director’s scapegoat.
Rape Culture Pro Tip
If someone is not strongly and widely chastised and disowned for using “I’ll rape a pregnant bitch and call it a threesome” in song lyrics, then our society has a giant fucking problem.
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Source: pantslessprogressive
(also known as leastlikely)
