[Trigger warning, sexual violence] Flesh Failures: If You Are Healing From Sexual Violence...

missgingerlee:

reclaimyourvoice:

If you healing from sexual assault and you get out of bed in the morning, You are doing well.

If you healing from sexual assault and you hold down a job, You are amazing.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you are still remotely pleasant to others, You are a lot nicer than me.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you cannot always be there for a friend, You are still a good friend and a strong enough person to know what is best for you.

If you are healing from sexual assault, and find it difficult to care for yourself, but still find the strength to care and love your family than you are strong as well.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you decide to tell your story, You are brave.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you decide that you are not ready to tell your story, You are also brave.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you cry daily or have nightmares, You are normal.

If you are healing from sexual assault and seeing happy, healthy people makes you sad, angry, jealous and worse, Join the club.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you decide to press charges against your perpetrator,
You have incredible courage.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you cannot or choose not to press charges against your perpetrator, Your perpetrator is still the one to blame, and you are smart for knowing what you can handle.

If you are healing from sexual assault and think that what happened was your fault, You are wrong, but you are not alone.

If you are healing from sexual assault and are jealous that some survivors put their abuser in jail, You are one of many.

If you are healing from sexual assault and feel like your significant other truly understands and is 100% supportive, He or she is rare and a keeper.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you have a good support system, It will help A LOT.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you don’t have enough people who understand what you are going through, I strongly recommend joining a support group.

If you are healing from sexual assault and were not believed or supported when you found the courage to tell, You still deserve to be heard, no matter how long ago it was.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you feel like you hate your body, Remember your spirit is held within your body.

If you are healing from sexual assault and feel painfully alone and isolated, Please know that there are thousands of people healing with you in spirit.

If you are healing from sexual assault and there are days where the only thing you are able to do is exist, Remember, we are existing with you till you can live again.

If you are healing from sexual assault but still looking to the future,
You are a survivor.

Remember these things, always. 

Thanks, I needed this. 

I’ve only truly shared my story with one person, and that person then used it against me in an argument. So I don’t know that I’ll share it any time soon.

It’s hard to heal alone, but it’s even harder to expose yourself to loved ones and have it come crashing down.

I know that I’m not alone. But I … have pretty much no interest in a support group. I don’t want to talk to survivors. I don’t want to have to face that - especially since most people will have had it worse than me. Sometimes it’s hard to accept that what I experienced was, in fact, rape. No, it wasn’t as violent and gruesome as what so many people go through, which I think is what makes me feel like I don’t deserve to be open about it.

I don’t know. But I really appreciated seeing this post. :)

Source: reclaimyourvoice

alexandraerin: everythingculturalappropriation: Now, in no way am I saying get over it, but that is the exact same statistic for women. Just women, not polka-doted, purple, blue, Mars, WOMEN. That is the statistic that is the most troubling. Women are not a minority, or at least that is what we are taught, but they suffer as minorities do in some ways. Yes, the most troubling thing is when regular women get treated the same way as minorities. There is nothing worse in the world than not getting the privilege that you deserve. Actually, no. This is NOT the same statistic for all women. From RAINN: 1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime (14.8% completed rape; 2.8% attempted rape).1 (source) The all-around national rate of rape (for all ethnicities) is half that of the rate for Native American women. Native American women are getting assaulted a hell of a lot more than ANY other ethnic group in this country. From the same page: Lifetime rate of rape /attempted rape for women by race:1 All women: 17.6% White women: 17.7% Black women: 18.8% Asian Pacific Islander women: 6.8% American Indian/Alaskan women: 34.1% Mixed race women: 24.4% Let that sink in a moment. Of American Indian/Alaskan women, literally more than one third of the population will be a victim of assault. But for all women across the country, just over one sixth of the population will be a victim of assault. Native Americans are being raped at a rate that is twice as much as the national average, and twice as much as white women. I’m not saying the 1 in 6 statistic isn’t problematic!! But if you’ve ever taken elementary level math, you know that 1 in 3 is much bigger than that. Don’t try to say it isn’t about race. 
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alexandraerin:

everythingculturalappropriation:

Now, in no way am I saying get over it, but that is the exact same statistic for women.

Just women, not polka-doted, purple, blue, Mars, WOMEN.

That is the statistic that is the most troubling. Women are not a minority, or at least that is what we are taught, but they suffer as minorities do in some ways.

Yes, the most troubling thing is when regular women get treated the same way as minorities. There is nothing worse in the world than not getting the privilege that you deserve.

Actually, no. This is NOT the same statistic for all women.

From RAINN:

1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime (14.8% completed rape; 2.8% attempted rape).1 (source)

The all-around national rate of rape (for all ethnicities) is half that of the rate for Native American women. Native American women are getting assaulted a hell of a lot more than ANY other ethnic group in this country. From the same page:

Lifetime rate of rape /attempted rape for women by race:1
  • All women: 17.6%
  • White women: 17.7%
  • Black women: 18.8%
  • Asian Pacific Islander women: 6.8%
  • American Indian/Alaskan women: 34.1%
  • Mixed race women: 24.4%

Let that sink in a moment. Of American Indian/Alaskan women, literally more than one third of the population will be a victim of assault. But for all women across the country, just over one sixth of the population will be a victim of assault. Native Americans are being raped at a rate that is twice as much as the national average, and twice as much as white women.

I’m not saying the 1 in 6 statistic isn’t problematic!! But if you’ve ever taken elementary level math, you know that 1 in 3 is much bigger than that.

Don’t try to say it isn’t about race. 

The post was deleted before I could reblog it for my comments. Luckily, I had copied the text of it.

mulderasaurus:

chubby-bunnies:

[TW: slut shaming, rape talk, sexual abuse etc]

YES, I AM A SLUT. 

grrrly-butthole-hair:

grrrlvirus:

yes i am a slut by clementine cannibal (by ClementineCannibal)

“yes i am a slut. because i have big tits that pour out of pretty much every shirt. because i like to show them off. because i used to charge 200 an hour and sometimes i would come and my client wouldn’t cuz that’s how much i was into fucking. because i’ve had trains run on me. because i liked it. because in grade eight a boy pulled down my shirt and bra in front of the whole class and my teacher and everyone saw my nipples. because he got a slap on the wrist and i was told by the principal that it was partially my fault because of the shirt i was wearing. because after that i started showing my tits to guys cuz i figured i was used goods. because when i was nineteen and being assaulted by a bunch of guys for not shaving my armpits they felt the need to pull my tits out of my shirt. because when i was twelve my grandfather forcibly made out with me. yes i am a slut. because i love sucking dick and i’ll take his load all over my face and tits and in my mouth. because i used to get drunk and fuck random guys all the time even on weeknights. because i’m bisexual and everyone assumes bisexuals are slutty even when we’re in monogamous relationships. because i’m a femme queer grrrl and everyone thinks femme queer grrrls are just ‘doing it for attention’ and are accessible to men. because the first time i was kissed in a way i actually like my girlfriend and i were told we were disgusting and going to burn in hell. yes i am a slut. because i fucked my boyfriend in the ass with my strap on. because i used to work in a sex shop. because i love the night. because i wear miniskirts. because i smoke weed. because i flirt. because i’ve gone to bars by myself. because i’ve pissed in alleyways. because sometimes i like sex. because sometimes i don’t like sex. because i’ve been raped. because i’m a feminist. because i’m a survivor. because i’m a cum guzzling nympho. because i own sex toys. lots of them. because the only person who can make me come is myself and i’m fine with that. because i rub my clit when i’m being fucked. because i’ve done webcam work. because i’ve posed naked for pictures. because i like to masturbate. because i’ve always loved to masturbate. because i used to jerk off to naked pictures of women when i was like ten years old and i thought there was something seriously wrong with me. because there is nothing wrong with me. yes i am a slut. because my boyfriend called me one. because he got on top of me and screamed it in my face. because he called me it on my birthday. because random men have yelled slut at me more times than i could possibly count if i tried to sit down and write a list. because i have been called an ugly bitch, sweetheart, honey and other degrading names more times than i could count too. because i’ve been called a dyke and told to shave my armpits and my pussy and told to lose weight and told to shut up and told to say yes to my pedophile grandfather. because i am sick of being told and this time i am telling you. yes i am a slut. because my pussy is beautiful and insatiable. because i love my body. because the clothes i’m most comfortable in apparently make me a target for rape. because when i was raped i was in my bed at home. because my body belongs to me no matter how many times i’ve been violated and none of it was my fault ever. yes i am a slut. because yes, i do fucking know what the word means and yes i am a feminist and yes i am intelligent and yes i do choose to say yes i am a slut. because the police officer who said women should stop dressing like sluts to avoid being victimized was talking about me and he was talking about you and he was talking about all of us. and because if we say it’s okay to rape any of us then it’s okay to rape all of us. because the slut card can be pulled out at any time and you never know when it will be used against you. because it can always be used against you, even if you’ve tried hard to make the ‘right’ choices. because all of us are sluts because in a rape culture women are considered inherently rapable. because none of us can be free of the word until those of us who choose to are free to embrace the word. because the word will never lose it’s power to hurt as long as we allow them to control it. because i respect a woman’s right to self identify and expect the same respect in return. because i am taking a cue from my queer sisters who helped in the reclamation of words like queer and dyke, words that mean so much to our history, struggle and resistance. yes i am a slut. yes it is a complicated identity full of disempowerment, empowerment, struggle and resistance. yes it was forced on me and used against me and yes i and many of us were able to find different, new and empowering ways of relating to the word. yes we are sluts. so please hear us out. hear what we have to say. don’t condescendingly tell us whether or not we are sluts or whether or not we can find empowerment this way. yes we can, yes we do, yes we are.”

Thanks for posting this to be completely passive-aggressive on my comments. Or was this your answer to what I had said? I’m sorry but being a street-walker whore shouldn’t empower women. Nor should her poor decision-making. How many times did she walk by herself in the dark in a tight skirt and tiny top? Probably a lot. Does that mean she was asking for it? Hell no. I’m saying that lacks common sense. No. Dressing like an actual whore that walks the streets doesn’t GIVE ANYONE THE RIGHT TO RAPE THEM. However, perhaps she should have the sense not to walk alone at night or go to bars alone dressed in clothing as big as a rag. No one actually said it is the girl’s fault or that she was asking for it. I don’t know of any sensible person who has ever said that. All that has ever been said is to use common sense when you put on your clothes and go out. Is that REALLY such a hard concept? Why is that seen as telling a girl it’s her fault?

You’re supposed to be my friend. Why are you passive aggressively attacking me to make a point? We’ve been friends for a long time. You know me. You KNOW I would never suggest that a woman had it coming. I’m not a mean-spirited person. But no, you’re going to spur this in public on tumblr. Well congrats, because here it is for everyone to see it. If you have an issue with me come talk to me privately. Don’t dish out this shit.

Well, no, my posting this had nothing to do with the Dave Chappelle thing from earlier. That wasn’t even on my radar anymore. This was just a thing that came across my dash and I liked it and wanted to post it. Because it’s a subject that’s important to me.

Because well. I’m going to say these words right now that I don’t believe I have ever said in public before. I have shared this with one person before, and that was only in the last six months or so. But now… I’m just going to come out and say it.

I am a rape survivor.

This is a topic that is important to me. I really liked this piece, and my posting it had nothing to do with you. I posted this for me.

chubby-bunnies:

[TW: slut shaming, rape talk, sexual abuse etc]

YES, I AM A SLUT. 

grrrly-butthole-hair:

grrrlvirus:

yes i am a slut by clementine cannibal (by ClementineCannibal)

“yes i am a slut. because i have big tits that pour out of pretty much every shirt. because i like to show them off. because i used to charge 200 an hour and sometimes i would come and my client wouldn’t cuz that’s how much i was into fucking. because i’ve had trains run on me. because i liked it. because in grade eight a boy pulled down my shirt and bra in front of the whole class and my teacher and everyone saw my nipples. because he got a slap on the wrist and i was told by the principal that it was partially my fault because of the shirt i was wearing. because after that i started showing my tits to guys cuz i figured i was used goods. because when i was nineteen and being assaulted by a bunch of guys for not shaving my armpits they felt the need to pull my tits out of my shirt. because when i was twelve my grandfather forcibly made out with me. yes i am a slut. because i love sucking dick and i’ll take his load all over my face and tits and in my mouth. because i used to get drunk and fuck random guys all the time even on weeknights. because i’m bisexual and everyone assumes bisexuals are slutty even when we’re in monogamous relationships. because i’m a femme queer grrrl and everyone thinks femme queer grrrls are just ‘doing it for attention’ and are accessible to men. because the first time i was kissed in a way i actually like my girlfriend and i were told we were disgusting and going to burn in hell. yes i am a slut. because i fucked my boyfriend in the ass with my strap on. because i used to work in a sex shop. because i love the night. because i wear miniskirts. because i smoke weed. because i flirt. because i’ve gone to bars by myself. because i’ve pissed in alleyways. because sometimes i like sex. because sometimes i don’t like sex. because i’ve been raped. because i’m a feminist. because i’m a survivor. because i’m a cum guzzling nympho. because i own sex toys. lots of them. because the only person who can make me come is myself and i’m fine with that. because i rub my clit when i’m being fucked. because i’ve done webcam work. because i’ve posed naked for pictures. because i like to masturbate. because i’ve always loved to masturbate. because i used to jerk off to naked pictures of women when i was like ten years old and i thought there was something seriously wrong with me. because there is nothing wrong with me. yes i am a slut. because my boyfriend called me one. because he got on top of me and screamed it in my face. because he called me it on my birthday. because random men have yelled slut at me more times than i could possibly count if i tried to sit down and write a list. because i have been called an ugly bitch, sweetheart, honey and other degrading names more times than i could count too. because i’ve been called a dyke and told to shave my armpits and my pussy and told to lose weight and told to shut up and told to say yes to my pedophile grandfather. because i am sick of being told and this time i am telling you. yes i am a slut. because my pussy is beautiful and insatiable. because i love my body. because the clothes i’m most comfortable in apparently make me a target for rape. because when i was raped i was in my bed at home. because my body belongs to me no matter how many times i’ve been violated and none of it was my fault ever. yes i am a slut. because yes, i do fucking know what the word means and yes i am a feminist and yes i am intelligent and yes i do choose to say yes i am a slut. because the police officer who said women should stop dressing like sluts to avoid being victimized was talking about me and he was talking about you and he was talking about all of us. and because if we say it’s okay to rape any of us then it’s okay to rape all of us. because the slut card can be pulled out at any time and you never know when it will be used against you. because it can always be used against you, even if you’ve tried hard to make the ‘right’ choices. because all of us are sluts because in a rape culture women are considered inherently rapable. because none of us can be free of the word until those of us who choose to are free to embrace the word. because the word will never lose it’s power to hurt as long as we allow them to control it. because i respect a woman’s right to self identify and expect the same respect in return. because i am taking a cue from my queer sisters who helped in the reclamation of words like queer and dyke, words that mean so much to our history, struggle and resistance. yes i am a slut. yes it is a complicated identity full of disempowerment, empowerment, struggle and resistance. yes it was forced on me and used against me and yes i and many of us were able to find different, new and empowering ways of relating to the word. yes we are sluts. so please hear us out. hear what we have to say. don’t condescendingly tell us whether or not we are sluts or whether or not we can find empowerment this way. yes we can, yes we do, yes we are.”

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Dear you lovely people,

missgingerlee:

laurquitlollygagging:

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. Just a friendly reminder that I am here for anyone who ever needs to talk, and I hope that you are all open to being there for your loved ones who may need help as well.

‘Cause seriously, if you don’t talk about it it will eat you from the inside out. 

I didn’t know we had a month for this. I’m not going to share my story here, but yes - please know that if you need to get anything off your chest, I’m here.

Source: laurquitlollygagging

Things You Shouldn't Say To...


People suffering from depression:

“Stop being so negative!”
“You choose to be sad”
“You don’t even have anything to be sad about”
“There are millions worse off than you, just get a grip!”

People struggling with self-harm:

“You’re just doing it for attention!”
“Those cuts aren’t even that bad”
“You don’t even have a reason to cut/burn yourself”
“You freak! Hide your scars, no one wants to see those disgusting things”

People that attempt suicide/are suicidal:

“You’re so sefish!”
“You don’t care about anyone but yourself”
“Don’t you realize what this would do to your Mum/Dad/Family/Friends. You need to think about other people and not just yourself”
“Just get over it. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and just get on with life”

People suffering from Anorexia Nervosa:

“JUST EAT!”
“You’re just doing this to hurt others”
“There are children dying of starvation and you’re just choosing not to eat, that’s so selfish”
“If you don’t start eating you won’t —- (stay over at your friends this weekend, get your allowance, etc)

People suffering from Bulimia Nervosa:

“Ew! That is so gross!”
“Just stop eating too much!”
“I’ll take all your money off you so you can’t buy binge food”
“I’ll lock the bathroom door to stop you purging”

SURVIVORS of Rape, Sexual Abuse, Molestation and Incest:

“You probably asked for it/insinuated it/gave permission”
“You’re lying/I don’t believe you/(s)he wouldn’t do that”
“Just get over it already! It’s in the past!”
“That is so disgusting. Aren’t you ashamed? I wouldn’t tell anyone if I were you…”

Victims of Bullying

“Just stick it out. They’ll give up soon enough”
“Well maybe you’ve pushed them to it”
“Don’t stick up for yourself or tell anyone ‘cause it’ll make it worse”
“Who cares? They’re not even being that harsh… You’re lucky compared to some people!”

Victims of Domestic Abuse

“Maybe you did something to provoke them?”
“Just fight/argue back”
“Get out of there! You’re doing this to yourself the longer you stay there”
“A lot of people have it worse than you…”

Victims of emotional trauma/abuse

“Maybe you should just do as they ask, then they won’t get angry”
“Just ignore them”
“What they’re saying doesn’t matter. Stop letting it affect you”
“You’re just too sensitive”

People struggling with general/social anxiety

“You’re just socially awkward”
“Why would anyone be afraid of that?”
“If you don’t want to hang out with me anymore, just tell me straight! Don’t make up all this crap about being anxious”
“Just get over it!”

Most common ‘insult’ that is misunderstood:

“Attention-seeker” - Ever been called that?
When you’re struggling with any of those things above, or similar things and someone calls you an “attention seeker”, it can be like being stabbed in the stomach and feeling the knife twisting.

After years of people calling me an attention seeker, I will admit that just this week, I was called it and it hurt… But here’s the thing: We are ALL attention-seekers.
Attention is a human NEED. So why do people insist on making us feel guilty about that? Why do people insist on making it out to be a bad thing, that only selfish people seek? Each and every one of us seek, or at least long for, attention.

But when you’re struggling with depression, self-injury, an eating disorder, or any mental health illness, “attention seeker” seems to pop up again and again.
Why does this hurt those people more than it would hurt someone else, if we all seek attention? Because when you have a mental illness, there’s an underlying issue(s) that made it develop. It could be a whole bunch of contributing factors, or just one thing so huge, that they have to reach out for it, in any way they can, in order to survive.

I need you to just stop for a moment, and think about those times when you’ve needed attention. The times you’ve been angry and needed someone to rant to. The times you’ve been sad and needed someone to tell you it’ll all be okay. The times you’ve felt alone and desperately needed someone to spend time with you.
What if, in the very midst of those strong feelings, someone called you an “attention seeker” and told you to just get over it? What if you’d spent years upon years dealing with things on your own, and the moment you broke the silence and had the courage to speak out about your suffering, someone told you to “sit down and shut up, and stop seeking attention”. Can you just imagine what that would do?
Now imagine that happening to someone who has already been starved of love, doesn’t know acceptance, has never heard encouragement, never experienced trust, or is just in so much inner turmoil that they feel they need someone to listen and notice they’re struggling, and someone tells them to keep their mouth shut because no one cares.

I just want you to know that “attention seeker” needs to stop being an insult.
We ALL need attention: it’s just a basic human need, and right, that we receive it - in a positive way, of course.
I need you to realize that by using that as an insult, you’re stripping the already-vulnerable and hurting of their courage and strength to speak out and receive help. You’re pushing them into their silent suffering even further. Those two simple words could result in another scar on someone’s skin, another day without food, or another life lost.

Don’t ever, ever underestimate the power of your words.
Words are more powerful than any of us will ever be able to comprehend.
So today, I’m asking that you use your powerful words to spread love, encouragement and hope instead of encouraging self-hate.

This.

please EVERYONE read this.

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ok umm… hold on

newwavefeminism:

has anyone else heard of this sick ass teacher who was recently jailed for [disgusting fact alert] spoon feeding his students his own body fluids as part of a “tasting game”??

the scary part is that they only discovered this because the person processing his photos noticed something and turned it over. After that it took a YEAR to arrest him. For acts that spanned FIVE YEARS.

They should hold “here’s how to report teachers who sexually assault you” seminars in every school… because I have a feeling that there are so many students who go through things like this who dont know how to speak up or realize that speaking up is an option…

i am officially disgusted with the world

i wasnt even sure if I wanted to blot this bc just typing this shit makes me gag. The kids were between the ages of SEVEN AND TEN.

i dont have kids but i now understand what it feels like to want to murder someone who harms my children

unfortunately this happened in my neck of the woods. it was on the local news last night… the anchor said that some of the photos showed children being fed something with a blue plastic spoon, and the spoon was seized and tested and it was proven to have held “bodily fluids” but they didn’t explain what that was, but i kinda figured this would be it.

i’m disgusted by ALL of it, like. that seriously makes me want to vomit. the whole idea of it. but i’m MOST disgusted by the fact that the photo employee REPORTED THIS TO THE POLICE A YEAR AGO. the man brought his film to be developed, the person working there noticed the content of the photos and was disturbed enough to call the police. why the fuck did it take the police a year to act on this? they had photographic evidence. jesus christ.

[trigger warning - child abuse, rape] I feel no sympathy for Joe Paterno. I feel nothing for him at all. He died at 85 years old, and for the majority of his life he was at the top of the world- a hero, a saint, an icon. A rich and powerful man, in a position of power at a rich and powerful institution, that just so happened to allow countless children to be brutalized in order to maintain it’s precious reputation and the money and power that went along with it. And he was complicit in that, no matter how much pretzel logic you use to try to excuse it away. At the very least, he was a moral coward, at worst he was a knowing enabler of the torture of children. Maybe he did have regrets, and maybe he was genuinely remorseful, but whatever personal hell he dealt with in his final months doesn’t even come close to what the children who were victimized experienced, and they are still living with it every day.

[…]

But I’m one of the lucky ones. I am unlike the millions of kids who never escape from the cycle of psychological torture and self inflicted violence- the kids and adult survivors who kill themselves, either directly or indirectly. The ones who never make it out ok.

And when they die, they don’t get photo layouts, or tributes. They are faceless. They are nameless. They are forgotten.

If you are going to grieve for anyone, grieve for them. Not Joe Paterno.

This excellent, excellent article here. Heavy trigger warnings for deep survivor shit. But so good.

Read this, JoePa fans. Read every word. Then read it again. Memorize it. Every time you’re tempted to jump to Joe Paterno’s defense against a survivor, remind yourself of this article. Form a pavlovian response so that you do this automatically.

Proceed to never, ever say a word about Joe Paterno again.

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Fuck jo pa. 

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Some resources for abuse survivors (rebloggable)

fromonesurvivortoanother:

http://healingquotes.tumblr.com/ (now abandoned, but a lot of good stuff there)

A few others:

http://reasonsyoushouldntfuckkids.wordpress.com/ (the blog which inspired mine. She is amazing)

http://sworddancewarrior.wordpress.com/

http://sexualabusesurvivors.tumblr.com/

http://riseandreclaim.tumblr.com/

http://reasonstohide.tumblr.com/

http://honeynbees.tumblr.com/

Forums and such:

http://deadfaerie69.conforums.com/index.cgi (Eating Disorder focused, is not pro anything, but there is a thinspiration section which you may want to avoid. Warning: it’s mostly a lot of cis women, but from experience I know they are very nice.)

https://www.ptsdforum.org/c/

http://www.aftersilence.org/forum/

http://pandys.org/forums/

http://www.dartheart.org/ (haven’t done much here but I’ve heard good things)

http://www.shareascare.com/ (a bit inactive/small at the moment)

http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/forum/#/ (Their FB page has a lot more activity, if you are okay with the public nature of it)

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Source: fromonesurvivortoanother

Yeah, I’m angry about all the boo-hoo’s and FLAGS AT HALF MAST.

missgingerlee:

To people that have survived certain things, having a huge group of people go ‘but he was a great guy!’ ‘you don’t know the whole story!’ ‘he didn’t do it himself!’ is not only triggering but insulting. 

It’s kinda the equivalent of going ‘well, somebody knew something terrible happened, but they figured they’d done enough’.

Those survivors lives will never be the same, but I didn’t see flags at half mast for them. 

Priorities…what are they?